There is POWER in FORGIVENESS!

Forgiving someone isn’t always the easiest or first thing we think to do, especially if what this person has done seriously effected your life tremendously. But I’ve learned that forgiving someone or something, gives you power. Power to move on and to live to become a better person....

    In my 22 years of living i have had my fair share of forgiving someone or wanting someone to forgive me. But this year (2017) i was hit hard with a couple of situations where “forgiveness” was not something i wanted to practice...

Earlier this year i was in a relationship that seemed very promising. I gave 100 % of myself, and i was hopeful that he was doing the same. Throughout this 6 month relationship, i started to see a change. And one that wasn’t for the good. I was betrayed, lied too, and framed as a different kind of person to his family. He humiliated me. And to top it off, he broke up with me over text messages. 

I felt defeated. I would have never imagine that’s how things would’ve ended.

Long story short, i was heart broken and angry. I wished him the worse and hoped he would never prosper without me...

Also a little bit before my break up, i had cut all ties with my long time best friend. Over text messages ( the irony 🙄). I felt during our friendship she wasn’t as supportive and she was a bit shady towards me. So in my mind , those actions equaled up to be a “bad friend”.

During the summer she text me asking me how i was doing, and i EXPLODED!

I told her everything that was on my mind and i didn’t hold back. At that moment i didn’t care if her feelings were hurt just as long as i got my point across and she knew how i felt towards her.

In that moment, that felt like the best thing to do...

After my breakup, it took awhile before i stopped crying and this particular pain in my heart would cease. But after that -what seemed to be a rough time- , i realized although he hurt me , LIFE STILL GOES ON!!

and i also realized that in order for my pain and negativity towards him to go away i had to LET GO. But In order to “Let Go” i had to forgive him. Of course not for his sake, but for mines.

I needed to release that heartache and bitterness. And forgiveness was the way.

I no longer have bad feelings towards him or wished him the worse.

My life took a turn. I was happy and relieved... 

But as time went by, i kept thinking about my best friend. I was wondering how she was doing and was it really worth it for me to “Go off” and end our friendship. 

Over the months of us not speaking to each other, i kept getting a nagging feeling about the way i just ended our long time friendship. I did it very rudely and i never sat down and spoke to her how i was feeling. The way i handle things was eating me alive. So i swallowed my pride , and i contacted her letting her know how sorry i was. And without hesitation, She forgave me and asked for forgiveness as well because she wasn’t aware of how she was making me feel in our friendship.

I had truly missed my friend...

There were a lot more situations in 2017 where i had to forgive someone so i could move on for the better... but, 

The moral of all of this is  FORGIVENESS is key 🔑. It’s not their sake, but for yours! 

It helps heal those internal wounds that constantly gives us pain. It relieves us of nagging heart aches. And most of all, it gives us power over our lives again! 

Forgiving someone does not mean you’ve “lost” or the other person has the “upper hand”. In fact , it means you’ve WON. 

You’ve taken control back over YOU! 

Your life is not in their hands anymore. Knowing that alone is enough to rejoice 🙌🏾

Now since you have the POWER and CONTROL, it’s up to you if you want this person or people back into your life...

But always remember, “Just because you forgive does not mean you have to forget and accept the same things that once hurt you.”

   Thank you guys for reading!!! I hope you take what I’ve written and learned and apply it to your prospering lives. God bless you all, and Happy Holidays ❤️ 

                        Love, Echelle